Thursday, April 4, 2013

What makes a good woman?



 

She is honest as best as possible in every thing she does

She does not gossip.  

She protects her man from harm when possible even if it's from himself

She is independent she thinks for herself but is wise enough to ask for help if she is not able to handle the situation

She is aware of his needs, she watches him to make sure he is not struggling alone

She will help him around the house or for personal needs

She is kind to herself and to others, she is willing to step up and help when needed

She speaks good to other people and does not put herself in a bad light to embarrass her husband

She is playful, she knows when her man needs to lighten up and tries to get him to forget his problems if not just for a little while

She put her man on a pedestal she brags to her friends what he does for her

She listens to his problems, she is his confident, his sounding board when he needs to bounce ideas off someone

She is his helper, she is there to be his apprentice in helping him with projects 

She is confident with her ability to handle problems as they arise.

She has a healthy handle on her emotions, she knows how to pull in her emotions under duress (most of the time)

She has the patience like Job when her ship is being dashed in the sea knowing in her heart that the two of them will weather out the storm

She is secure in who she is, she doesn't worry about idle talk, she is aware of her surroundings
 
Bob


26 comments:

  1. Hello Bob,
    I'm glad you decided to write a female-version of your previous post. Very interesting.
    I have to admit it, I lack of many of these qualities but thanks for giving me something to reflect upon.
    V.

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    1. Thank you Viola Di Marzo

      It wouldn't have bee a incomplete list if I did not include it :)

      Bob

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  2. Very nice that you have thought all this out, Bob. You got me thinking of composing a version of my own.

    Just for comparison, I give here a Biblical version, suitable for the culture from which it came. I have always liked this passage (note the hint of a workout in verse 17!):

    "Proverbs 31

    10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
    11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
    12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
    13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
    14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
    15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
    16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
    17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
    18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
    19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
    20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
    21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
    22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
    23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
    24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
    25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
    26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
    27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. 28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. 29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
    30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
    31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates."

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    1. This list is all of you gals
      You complete us
      and we never said you had to do them all at the same time now did we? :)

      Bob

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  4. This is an interesting post. I have to agree with Viola. I don't know that I have many of these qualities. Especially the one about being in control of my emotions. I'm curious to see what Bucko thinks of these qualities. Thanks for sharing.

    TL

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    1. Your welcome

      could you drop by again and let me know please?

      Bob

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  5. Nice list, thanks for sharing. There are a few there that I think I might need to work on. :)

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    1. LIL Kenzie

      I think both list for the guys and gals just proves that we all need work :)

      And besides this is something to strive for when your bored with nothing to do.

      Bob

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  6. Hi Bob. Nice list...gives me some things to think about. As TL said the control of the emotions one is tough! Also, it's easy to be kind to others, not so much to myself. No gossipng?!! That would definitely make for shorter conversations with the girls, lol.

    Seriously, you are a lucky guy if Bobbie strives for these qualities. Thanks for sharing :)

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    1. Hi Queenie.

      Both list's shows us how much our spouses truly loves us even though we are not perfect.
      That in turn inspirers us to strive to be that perfect person for them.

      Bob

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  7. Boy, do I have work to do! Emotions in control, (HA) have read my last post...lol. Plus, like Queenie, my conversations will be shorter. ;)

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    1. Hi Jane

      So true we all need work according to the posted lists

      Bob

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  8. I am glad that you said we can control our emotions (most times). LOL It is true, we can at most times, but there are a few times where they are too much to bear, and no matter how much we try not to, the tears come. And it's great when we are allowed those tears when we cannot help them. :)

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    1. Hi Es May

      good point and it's through your tears that you and your husband can bond
      closer together in either rejoicing or in sorrow.

      Bob

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  9. Hi Bob, nice list and very interesting. As TL said, I too would be curious to know what Rick thinks of these.

    I think I have some work to do as well LoL. Confidence to handle problems as they arrive, controlling emotions and patience. Sigh

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Hi Roz

      You must be a wonderful person because that is only 3 of 16 atrabutes listed that you are lacking.
      That isn't bad, not at all and besides that issomething you can learn when you're bored with nothing to do :)

      Bob

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  10. Hi Bob,

    Hey, I LOVE what you've posted! I think it all is summed up by loving your spouse more than you love yourself, by wanting to give him everything good instead of selfishly seeking your own gain. I don't understand why this can be so difficult at times! If we would only just take a deep breath in and not react so "emotionally"! Or to stop and consider each thing we do, each decision we make, and realize the effect it has on the one we love, then I think everything would just fall into place the way it was meant to, that is, the HOH would REALLY be HOH, and his submissive wife would submit because she loved and respected him, not because she HAD to. This comes thru growth, tho, and much patience and prayer. Luckily, I have this husband who understands that I'm at least trying. Each day I'm getting closer and I have set a goal, much like your list. Definitely the Proverbs 31 list!

    It's always great to see you, Bob! I hope to talk to Bonnie soon!

    Auralynne

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  11. Welcome Auralynne

    Just think if we all did what we were supposed to do on the list what kind of marriage we would have?

    bob

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  12. This is a beautiful post, my friend. Thank you for sharing...

    Joannie

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    1. could you keep this a secret for a bit

      Bob

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  13. Nice list...let's just say I am a work in progress :-) Take care, Terps

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  14. Hi Terpsichore


    I think we are all a work in progress ever evolving and growing

    Bob

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  15. Such a beautiful post, Bob! Thank you for sharing! I am always working on myself....just trying to be the best Belle that I can be and I think I will always be a work in progress....but hey.....better to be a work in progress than not working on anything at all, right? :)

    Belle:)

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  16. Hi SmilingBelie

    yes progress is good it makes me love her all the more when I see growth in her as we grow old together.


    Bob

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