Tuesday, October 15, 2013

13 Common Myths of a DD Relationship




1. Starting a DD relationship is easy.
Starting a DD relationship takes a lot of time and energy to do. You have to research what it is that you want; what she wants out of this new relationship; you have to envision where you want this DD relationship to go; and where you will be in a month, 6 months, or a year from now and beyond.

2. Once the DD relationship is agreed upon there is nothing to do.
Once the two of you have agreed on the DD lifestyle you want your work has just started. You have to interact with your partner and pay attention to what is going on. You must deal with the problems as they come along not hiding your head in the sand and now, like anything else you have to maintain the relationship.

3. The tih has to completely comply with the HOH’s wishes.
The tih is not a mindless Stepford wife to do the HOH’s bidding at the snap of a finger. She has needs too. She is not your slave to wait on you hand and foot well not all the time LOL.

4. The HOH is always right.
As much as I wish it were true, alas it is not so. We are human. Therefore we make mistakes and when we do make them we should own up to them just as we expect our tih’s to do

5. The tih must always take a spanking.
 If your tih thinks there is a problem and refuses a spanking because of it, you best listen to them and find out what the problem is or this could well be the beginning of the end of your DD relationship.

6. Spankings fix everything.
There are times when a spanking just doesn’t do it. You may just have to hold her, just scold her,  give her a good talking to or even a kind word does more than any spanking will ever do. Use this tool wisely.

7. The HOH is not accountable.
If anything you are more accountable because you should now hold yourself to a higher standard and to show your tih that you practice what you preach.

8. The tih has no say in the relationship 
The tih has everything to say if it comes to her health and safety. Plus, she also has a say in how this relationship is going to go. This is not a one way street where the HOH leads, you have a copilot watching your back by using her you can avoid some unpleasant pitfalls.
9. There will be no more fighting.
LOL. There will still be misunderstanding but now hopefully you will be able to settle them faster and with compassion.
10. The tih will not test the HOH.
They will test you every chance they get in the beginning just to make sure you are paying attention and at certain times all through the relationship just in case we aren't paying attention.
11. HOH's are mind readers.
Again another false claim that I wish was true. Letting the tih in on a little HOH secret, we can't read minds so you will have to give us hints at times when we seem to be missing the ball on what is happening.
12. The tih will understand the HOH's wishes.
The HOH has to communicate their wishes and directions plainly and clearly on how they are to conduct themselves in and out of the household.
13. The relationship will always be serious.
Yes it is a serious thing we are doing. But please remember this is just a tool to hopefully make your relationship stronger and better than it was. But never stop having fun and enjoy each other as you walk together on this earth together.

Bob




 


18 comments:

  1. Thank you for sharing this Bob <3 HUGS

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    1. Hi Coeal Zad

      Thank you for stopping bye and commenting on my blog

      Bob

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  2. This is a great post, Bob. Nicely done.

    -- Clint

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  3. Bob,
    Wonderful!!!! So very true, thank you Bob for posting this.
    Honey

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    1. Hi Ashley Lee

      Thank you almost new friend LOL for likening my post

      Bob

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  4. I like your post, Bob.
    Most clause 6, but it's not a surprise. right? lol ..
    Remove these two section that deals with spanking, and then we can take this advice to any relationship whatsoever. Vanila, or ice vanila.
    For that, you 'have written, this is sound common sense.
    (Besides these two spankings paragraphs.
    These are for me, I'm not in DD and never will be ... would be about pure lust .. and it's not so bad, right? lol ..)

    Hugs,
    Mona Lisa.

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    1. Hello my friend Mona
      How come that doesn't surprise me LOL
      As always Mona thanks for stopping by

      Bob

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  5. This was a good read, Bob! :). Thanks for posting! My favorite is number 13! Many hugs to you and Bobbie,

    <3 Katie

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    1. Hi Katie

      Your more than welcome kiddo and yes 13 is my favorite too

      Bob

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  6. Hey Bob...excellent list here and so very true!

    Blessings,
    Cat

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    1. Welcome Cat

      Thanks for taking the time to say hi

      Bob

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  7. Wow Bob, this is an excellent post and I think you've hit the nail on the head on each point. Thanks for sharing this. I'm with Katie, I love No 13, it's quite often all too easy to overlook the importance of having fun with ttwd and enjoying each other.

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Hi Roz

      We often forget the whole purpose of doing this is to get closer and to have fun with our spouses

      Bob

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  8. Great post Bob, I especially like number 13 for when we are all too worried and inward looking. Don't forget to have fun!

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    1. Hi Janey

      I hope we never forget that rule have fun

      Bob

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    1. Thank you Queenie for stopping by and commenting on this

      Bob

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