Helping Men With Stress

The post I did on helping the wife with stress was so enjoyed that Kim from R&K - Our journey in DD  asked me to do a post about helping the HOH with stress. So here we go. I hope you like this as much as you did the helping the wife with stress.

How many times has your husband come home dragging his behind from either a bad day at work or the ride home was terrible? He walks through the door only to be greeted by his nagging wife telling him how bad the kids were; how something broke in the house; or, on very rare occasions, that he didn’t cut the lawn or did his other household fixes.

Let us revisit the same scenario. As he walks in the door he is greeted by his wife. She walks up to him, she hugs him, pecks him on the cheek saying. “Dinner will be on the table in about a half hour. Why don’t you go and sit down on the couch and relax while I finish up with supper. Can I get you something to drink honey?”

Now which man do you think will be the happiest? Definitely not the first one. I think the second option is a much better choice, don't you?

Another way to make him forget his problems is to dress up for him. Change those baggy pants and sweat shirt for a dress or a decent pair of jeans with a nice looking top, cook him his favorite meal, and, if you have a few minutes to spare while supper is in the oven, give the man a back rub and while doing that tell him how much you missed him while he is away. If more women did this, I would wager a bet that the sports ratings would drop a few points. Now after the back rub, all bets are off on that sports rating. LOL.

If you really want to rock his world and are feeling a little feisty, have a picnic in the bedroom. Of course this will take a few minutes, or a lot, to plan depending on what you want to do. Put candles around the bedroom, a blanket on the bed or the floor, have some cheese, fruit, bread, vegies, and of course, some wine too. Greet him at the door, put your finger to his lips to keep him from asking any questions, take his hand and say “follow me”. As you open the door, I would safely say that all his problems will disappear. Once you close the door … well I leave that up to you I am sure you will come up with something. WEG

Another idea is to make sure that supper is not finished. When he walks in the kitchen he sees you only in an apron standing by the stove, sink or even the dinner table. Oh no, look! There just happens to be some type of spanking implement there. Wonder what he could do with that?

Here is another one. The poor guy is doing a home repair and he is pulling his hair out because he can’t get the pieces together. Very gently ask him if you could assist him with his project and then very, very submissively ask him if you could read the instructions so that he will have a better idea on what the project looks like and what he is trying to do.

Now a word of caution here when you do this. Do not, I repeat do not grab the instructions. Even though he probably has never seen or read them because you are now questioning his ability to put it together. Ask him nicely if you can read them. Then make a suggestion like honey have you tried to put parts aaa and ddd together? That might be easier if you do. Please don't laugh at the poor guy because real men don't read instructions remember? :)

When you see your man withdrawing into himself, just be there for him. Ask him if you could do something for him. Give him control of the remote, read one of his books so you have something to talk about, or ask him about his day and act like you’re interested in what is happening to him. Who knows you might even get to see a different side of him. In other words treat him like you would like to be treated when you’re stressed out.

Most of the time when he comes home from work all you have to do is acknowledge his presence when he walks in the door  and let him be by himself for about a half hour so he can unwind.

Bob