Helping Wife With Stress

Being the HOH of your household is tough. There is no doubt about it. Just ask me and I will tell you. But when the wife is stressing out be it parents, children, work, or gasp us, it is hard to maintain that equilibrium that we so desire in our relationship because when she is stressed out our world definitely goes out of whack.

There are several tools at our disposal, some good and some bad. The bad would be you pretending it isn’t happening and putting your head in the sand. If you are doing this please turn in your HOH card at the front door. You could spank her hoping to reset her or at least make her forget about her problems because her butt is on fire. This could help but then when her butt cooled down you would probably have double trouble because she will be ticked off at you. You could go back to your old ways and holler at her. But, as you have figured out by now, none of these are good options or very wise moves at all.

So let us talk about how to help our wonderful wives to get back to her happy and sassy (fun) self. The first step it to just jump in with both feet, come right out and ask her what is stressing her out. Sit down with her and grab your favorite beverage and just plain talk about what is bugging her. Don’t be the fix it guy.There will be time for that later. Just sit and try to find out what is making her stressed out and is driving her nuts. Try to figure out what the stress triggers are then you will be able to come up with a plan to help her.

Encourage her to give up some unnecessary sources of stress like not accepting to help at church, charity functions, and just helping people out because she does not have the word no in her vocabulary. Bobbie is this way if someone asks her to help she is all for it and then she gets in over her head. It then spills into our household. Make sure you explain to her why you are limiting her to certain tasks. Make sure you’re available so she can talk to you when she has a stress attack and actually listen to her.

Take up some of the slack like some of the daily chores, cooking, watching the kids and if you are capable of it, do the laundry. Make a list of things that she absolutely has to have done and let everything else go. Convince her to take one task on at a time and not to do any more until she has that one done. Point out to her when she starts to stress out and show her kindly where she is starting to unravel.

Arrange for your wife to have quiet, solitary time. Take everyone out of the house for a few hours, or arrange it so that she can go off on her own for a while. Treat her to a day to the spa to have her nails done a massage perhaps.

Do things together. Go for a walk, go to the park, to the movies, go to the gym make it fun to see who can lose the most weight in a week, month. What better way to enjoy watching your spouses better ASSests than having them in front of you for 30 min or more working those Maximus Glutinous and just be close to her. Try enjoyable relaxing activities with your wife. Take a yoga or tai chi class, or treat yourselves to a few massage therapy sessions. Listen to soothing music, play board games with each other, or read together. Do what you can to help your wife get enough restful sleep.

Establish a weekly date night with your wife. Go out together for dinner, a movie, a visit with friends or another enjoyable activity. Or, arrange for the kids to be out of the house overnight and have your date at home.