Hi I'm Bobbie

Hello my name is Bobbie . I am Bob’s other half. I have been following his postings and I think it is time for me to come out and properly introduce myself to his blogging friends.

 

I am 58 years old and I am starting to enjoy getting spanked. It has been a long journey for me. So grab a cup of coffee, sit back and I will take you through that journey.

 

We have been married for what seems like forever.  Thirty-eight years later this year and although we had more good years than bad there was just something missing.  In the beginning Bob worked a lot of hours and I was left with making all the decision making fell in my lap. Being Bob worked so many hours he just nodded his head in approval and I handled everything. As the years went along I got more independent and that is when we realized that something was missing.

 

Bob quit his business and tried to get back into the decision making and that is when it seemed like we were always a bit off kilter with each other. By that I mean that we were good to each other but we didn’t go out of our way to let each other know what was happening. We ran into a lot of problems because neither one of us knew what we were doing.  If we had to do something as a couple or a team that is when tried to wrestle control from each other.

 

 I always knew Bob had a dark side to him and that he loved to spank me.  Because of the way we first approached it I was not comfortable with it.  It was too harsh.  I felt demeaned.  Like I was being put on the bottom rung of the ladder.  I should walk 15 steps behind him. It was an awful feeling because I knew that he loved me with his whole heart and soul.  I loved him beyond belief.

On behalf of his defense, being that it was the late 60s there was hardly any information on the proper way to conduct a proper spanking. He has been reading about spanking desires since he was 14 years old along with reading true detective and true romance stories (to those of you are too young to remember our moms just loved these two magazines). 

 

The first time he approached me with the D/D lifestyle, I didn’t want anything to do with it.  I told him to stay right where you are and I ran for the hills.  Nothing was said about it for a long time until about three years ago. We were both unhappy because it became a fight of who was in charge.  We realized both of us couldn’t be the leader.  There had to be a change. Bob went on the internet and was searching and he found a way to explain D/D to me. He explained it in such a way that it was no longer threatening nor demeaning to my self-esteem. Then he asked if I wanted to try it out in the bedroom to see if I would like it. At that time, he was involved in a chat room, Joannie and Friends to be exact, it is a D/D forum, and they kept asking for me to come in and talk (sound familiar?). At first I didn’t want anything to do with it.  Then I started to look over Bob’s shoulder  and realized they were wonderful people. They helped me come out of my shell and showed me the way of the D/D lifestyle.  Then Bob asked me if I would be interested in this type of lifestyle.  We agreed to keep it in the bedroom until I was comfortable and three years later here I am.  (Thank you to all my friends at Joannie and Friends).

 

We did a six week submission program.  It consisted of a spanking every day for six weeks. He did not spank me hard. It was more for me to get use to being over Bob’s knee and giving up control to him. I was very into work and I did not talk about my problems because I always tried to solve them thinking I could solve them myself. Through this exercise I have learned how to say “Us” instead of “Me” to include Bob in everything that I do. Although it doesn’t always work that way, we now know the danger signs when we both start to shut down.

 

Just as we were making big plans to come out of the bedroom, Bob’s knee decided that it needed to be replaced NOW!. And being the good wife that I am I couldn’t let him have all the fun so I decided to have a sciatic nerve attack. And that put us out of commission for three months. Which was a blessing because all we could do is talk.

 

We have been doing this for 5 months.  We have had our ups and downs, more of the former and less of the latter.  Yeah us!

 

Because of the experience difference that Bob wrote about, we are learning to communicate better than before and have learned to compromise. We are learning to convey our feelings, our wants, our needs, and finding a way to satisfy both desires.  We still keep in contact with the people in Joannie and Friends and have come in contact with some new friends and chat with them regularly and they have helped us out.  They have given us some great advice and walked us through some of our rough times.

 

Bobbie