She is honest as best as possible in every thing she does
She does not gossip.
She protects her man from harm when possible even if it's from himself
She is independent she thinks for herself but is wise enough to ask for help if she is not able to handle the situation
She is aware of his needs, she watches him to make sure he is not struggling alone
She will help him around the house or for personal needs
She is kind to herself and to others, she is willing to step up and help when needed
She speaks good to other people and does not put herself in a bad light to embarrass her husband
She is playful, she knows when her man needs to lighten up and tries to get him to forget his problems if not just for a little while
She put her man on a pedestal she brags to her friends what he does for her
She listens to his problems, she is his confident, his sounding board when he needs to bounce ideas off someone
She is his helper, she is there to be his apprentice in helping him with projects
She is confident with her ability to handle problems as they arise.
She has a healthy handle on her emotions, she knows how to pull in her emotions under duress (most of the time)
She has the patience like Job when her ship is being dashed in the sea knowing in her heart that the two of them will weather out the storm
She is secure in who she is, she doesn't worry about idle talk, she is aware of her surroundings
Bob
Hello Bob,
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you decided to write a female-version of your previous post. Very interesting.
I have to admit it, I lack of many of these qualities but thanks for giving me something to reflect upon.
V.
Thank you Viola Di Marzo
DeleteIt wouldn't have bee a incomplete list if I did not include it :)
Bob
Very nice that you have thought all this out, Bob. You got me thinking of composing a version of my own.
ReplyDeleteJust for comparison, I give here a Biblical version, suitable for the culture from which it came. I have always liked this passage (note the hint of a workout in verse 17!):
"Proverbs 31
10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. 28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. 29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates."
Wow Malcolm
DeleteNice job
Bob
Who is she? lol
ReplyDeleteVery nice.
This list is all of you gals
DeleteYou complete us
and we never said you had to do them all at the same time now did we? :)
Bob
This is an interesting post. I have to agree with Viola. I don't know that I have many of these qualities. Especially the one about being in control of my emotions. I'm curious to see what Bucko thinks of these qualities. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteTL
Your welcome
Deletecould you drop by again and let me know please?
Bob
Nice list, thanks for sharing. There are a few there that I think I might need to work on. :)
ReplyDeleteLIL Kenzie
DeleteI think both list for the guys and gals just proves that we all need work :)
And besides this is something to strive for when your bored with nothing to do.
Bob
Hi Bob. Nice list...gives me some things to think about. As TL said the control of the emotions one is tough! Also, it's easy to be kind to others, not so much to myself. No gossipng?!! That would definitely make for shorter conversations with the girls, lol.
ReplyDeleteSeriously, you are a lucky guy if Bobbie strives for these qualities. Thanks for sharing :)
Hi Queenie.
DeleteBoth list's shows us how much our spouses truly loves us even though we are not perfect.
That in turn inspirers us to strive to be that perfect person for them.
Bob
Boy, do I have work to do! Emotions in control, (HA) have read my last post...lol. Plus, like Queenie, my conversations will be shorter. ;)
ReplyDeleteHi Jane
DeleteSo true we all need work according to the posted lists
Bob
I am glad that you said we can control our emotions (most times). LOL It is true, we can at most times, but there are a few times where they are too much to bear, and no matter how much we try not to, the tears come. And it's great when we are allowed those tears when we cannot help them. :)
ReplyDeleteHi Es May
Deletegood point and it's through your tears that you and your husband can bond
closer together in either rejoicing or in sorrow.
Bob
Hi Bob, nice list and very interesting. As TL said, I too would be curious to know what Rick thinks of these.
ReplyDeleteI think I have some work to do as well LoL. Confidence to handle problems as they arrive, controlling emotions and patience. Sigh
Hugs,
Roz
Hi Roz
DeleteYou must be a wonderful person because that is only 3 of 16 atrabutes listed that you are lacking.
That isn't bad, not at all and besides that issomething you can learn when you're bored with nothing to do :)
Bob
Hi Bob,
ReplyDeleteHey, I LOVE what you've posted! I think it all is summed up by loving your spouse more than you love yourself, by wanting to give him everything good instead of selfishly seeking your own gain. I don't understand why this can be so difficult at times! If we would only just take a deep breath in and not react so "emotionally"! Or to stop and consider each thing we do, each decision we make, and realize the effect it has on the one we love, then I think everything would just fall into place the way it was meant to, that is, the HOH would REALLY be HOH, and his submissive wife would submit because she loved and respected him, not because she HAD to. This comes thru growth, tho, and much patience and prayer. Luckily, I have this husband who understands that I'm at least trying. Each day I'm getting closer and I have set a goal, much like your list. Definitely the Proverbs 31 list!
It's always great to see you, Bob! I hope to talk to Bonnie soon!
Auralynne
Welcome Auralynne
ReplyDeleteJust think if we all did what we were supposed to do on the list what kind of marriage we would have?
bob
This is a beautiful post, my friend. Thank you for sharing...
ReplyDeleteJoannie
could you keep this a secret for a bit
DeleteBob
Nice list...let's just say I am a work in progress :-) Take care, Terps
ReplyDeleteHi Terpsichore
ReplyDeleteI think we are all a work in progress ever evolving and growing
Bob
Such a beautiful post, Bob! Thank you for sharing! I am always working on myself....just trying to be the best Belle that I can be and I think I will always be a work in progress....but hey.....better to be a work in progress than not working on anything at all, right? :)
ReplyDeleteBelle:)
Hi SmilingBelie
ReplyDeleteyes progress is good it makes me love her all the more when I see growth in her as we grow old together.
Bob