While sitting in the waiting room waiting to see my Doctor, I was thinking of what are some of the qualities that make a good Dominant, HOH or a man in general.
A good Dominant or HOH is a person that cares about his spouse or girlfriend of her feelings and what is going on around her.
He truly wants to be a part of her life. As much as it pains us sometimes to listen to you babble (just kidding.)
He will listen to what is important to her at that moment, what she has to say so that he will know how to avoid the rough spots in life.
He is not always right and he has the humility to go to his spouse and admit that he was wrong and will find a way to correct it.
He has self-control in all that he does and he will walk away when he is angry and then come back to talk to you when he has calmed down.
He is constantly thinking and learning on how to lead his family.
He will say I do not know, but he will research it if necessary.
He is her best friend he does things with her and he is there for her.
He protects her from herself when needed.
He knows when to be firm and when to be compassionate.
He will know when to push her and when to pull back so that she can grow and not be stagnating.
He is honest.
He possesses her as if she is the most valued treasure of all and he will put her on a pedestal for all to see his most pride and joy.
He is the type of person that will be attentive.
He sees most every need that she has and he will put her first even before his self.
He will edify her and never demean her on purpose.
He is not boastful
He is willing to roll up his sleeves and help
He does not take glory for himself
He is not a gossiper
He says what he means
He has the resolve to stand firm even when others don’t agree with him
What can you think of that I missed?
Bob
Hi Bob! I don't think we've "met" yet but I've seen you around Blogland. I really like this post, and thought I'd tell you so. :) You seem like a great husband based on what I've read from you. Nice post.
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thank you Elisa for your kind words.
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Bob
Sounds great to me!
ReplyDelete(ps - will you consider removing the captcha requirement for comments?)
Thanks for stoping by Renee
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Bob, this sounds like serious working.
ReplyDeleteI think I will have to offer my resignation as HoH.
Please? For Renee, remove the word verification? It would make me happy too!
Naa Bas I would hang on to that HOH hat and shirt for a bit longer and besides it looks cool on your resume
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PS I took the verification off
Wow Bob, I love this, Bobbie is a lucky girl :) Can't think of anything else :)
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Roz
Thank you Roz
DeleteBobbie told me what to write (just kidding)but she did proff read it
Bob
Bob, I think you sum it up very nicely. I love the post!
ReplyDeleteThank you
DeleteBob
sounds good to someone who isn't in that kind of relationship, but they sound like attributes that should be in any relationship.
ReplyDeleteI agree it is pretty generic and applies to vanilla folks to
DeleteBob
Great list Bob...can't think of anything to add.
ReplyDeleteBlessings,
Cat
Thank You Cat
DeleteBob
Seems like a good list to me, but of course there is so many little things that are all different for couples...:)
ReplyDeleteSo true Julia
DeleteBob
I loved mostly when you said they will admit when they are wrong, will say they don't know and research, and when you said he protects her from herself when needed. It was all so beautiful though. :) I haven't read the other comments, so sorry if I repeat anyone. I guess the biggest one I face is people trying to pressure me into do things for them that I don't have the time or energy to do. Or try to pressure me at all. Having him step in and take that pressure off of me really helps. Not sure if that falls into one of the ones you listed, but that's one I really like my husband doing for me. :)
ReplyDeleteThanks Es May
DeleteI've always thought to be a man you own up to your mistakes, if you don't something say so, protect your wife she's the best thing you'll ever have
and do what you say.
Bob
Hi Bob!
ReplyDeleteI finally made it over. Nice, well thought out post. Sometimes those waits in the doctor's office waiting room aren't so wasted after all. ;)
Bobbie is surely a fortunate woman to have a HOH who recognizes her needs and puts them in such high priority.
Looking forward to hearing more from the HOH perspective.
(Hugs) Cat
Welcome Cat
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Thank you for your kind words
I even stoped by your place and had a cup of coffee although I didn't post any thing on your blog but I will :)
Bob
I agree that they all sound good. Love is thinking about our partner first.
ReplyDeleteThanks for taking off the captcha.
Your welcome Minelle
DeleteLove now that's a whole different post
Bob
I can't think of anything else to add to your list Bob. All I can say is Bobbie is a very lucky woman.
ReplyDeleteI think she just might know that, maybe
DeleteBob :)
Hi Bob,
ReplyDeleteI haven't made it here yet, so let me start with welcome to blog land. This is a great post that shows how much you love and care for your partner. That is always nice to see. I like to think that one of Bucko's jobs is my personal snuggler. Something about feeling his arms around me and the way we fit together makes me feel safe and happy. Of course, he thinks part of that means getting to warm up his cold hands on my back. Again great post!
TL
Thank you TL for the warm welcome.
DeleteBobbie would have to agree with your husband, she loves to put her clod clammy feet on my back. me shuddering.
Bob
WOW, your doctor must have been running late. It is a great list, well done!
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There are times when I'm at the doctors office for 3 hrs but this one was short only an hour :)
ReplyDeleteThank you Abby for the kind words, glad you enjoyed the list.
Bob
Great post. I found myself smiling throughout reading it and thinking of Colin. Thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteYour welcome Kenzie
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Bob!!!
ReplyDeleteI just found your blog! So happy that I did:) I loved this list! Thank you for sharing it:)
Belle:)
Well glad to meet ya neighbor SmilingBelie stop by any time there is always a hot pot of coffee on the table so help yourself.
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Hi Bob, yes I know it has been awhile- I have been off blogland for awhile due to illness but I am back and I just stumbled across this post- I want to share it with Vic and hope you don't mind. It is a wonderful post I think he needs to see just how many of those features he already has :)
ReplyDeletewelcome back Cathie Cooky
Deleteglad to hear your well on your way to recovery.
sure you can use it I hope it helps hem after he reads it
Bob
This post made me all choked up. I can't think of anything you might have missed. Well done
ReplyDeleteHi Blondie
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Bob