Benafits of DD

Jason Girl from The Taming of the Shrew  and I are doing another post together on “What benefits does the tih and the HOH get out of the DD relationship”. Or in other words, what is in it for them. Being I am the HOH I will gladly take this standpoint and Jason Girl will talk about the tih’s point of view.

First of all these feeling and accomplishments that I talk about below can and have been done without having a DD relationship but it is hard to do without both parties involved. DD provides a way for the two parties to get involved and be proactive in their relationship.

The things that I get out of this DD relationship are as follows:

1. Contentment. I am content knowing that we are working together and no longer struggling separately and sometimes against each other.
2. Trust. I can now feel like I can let my guard down knowing that Bobbie has my back and that if there is something that I should know about she will inform me of it as I would her.
3. Accomplishment. I can see things getting done that are an improvement in our lives. In the things that we do together and separately. I can see a clear path of where we were and how far we have come with goals in place to take us into the future together
4. Relaxing. I am more at ease when I talk to Bobbie knowing that I am being listened to not having to worry about some bomb dropping out of the sky because she forgot to do something that I asked her to.
5. Commitment. In the beginning before DD I really didn’t care what Bobbie did as long as it didn’t cause us grief and aggravation. We pretty much did our own thing and then sometime during the week when we saw each other, we would touch base on what was happening with us. Since DD I now have a renewed interest in Bobbie, what she does, says, feels, thinks, acts because I want nothing but the best for her. I see what she is and what can be if we apply ourselves in being better. I want to help her become the person she wants to be.
6. Sense of worth. Let’s face it, everyone wants to be wanted, men are no different. I am at my happiest when Bobbie comes up to me either to ask for help or to ask me for advice in whatever is she needs at that time. It feeds my ego that I am wanted, respected, that my opinion means something to her and that she trusts me enough to share her joys and sorrows with me. The look on her face when she speaks to me is such a rush to my ego.
7. Love. Although we have always loved each other, with DD in place I now love her even more because I am really hearing what she is saying to me. I see her hopes and dreams. I want her to succeed in whatever her goals are. I want to put her first in everything I do. I love to see the smile when I do something for her or if I see her struggling I will pitch in and help her to get done faster so we can be together.
8. Closeness. We have gotten closer instead of being good friends we are now great friends. I want to spend time with her I want to hear her talk, laugh at times complain and cry, I want to comfort her when she is sad, help her when she is hurt, and laugh with her when she is happy.
9. Communication. Before DD we talked, the lights were on but no one was home. Now DD has taught us how to listen before we speak, think before we say something and to say it with kindness never in anger.

Alongside of that there is a dark side of DD that I also like.

1. Control. I like the control I have over Bobbie. I love the way she gives me her submission the way she bares her throat to me. Trusting me not to break her to take care of her and to discipline her when needed.

2. Discipline. yes I know we are not supposed to like it but I am a spanko and if I were to tell you that spanking Bobbie does not do anything to me I would be a liar. Although as of now we use alternative discipline but we are experimenting with spanking so who knows were that will lead

Bob