Father In Law

Being away for over half a year does not mean that we have melted through the cracks in the floor or quit doing things DD. It just got harder to do the things that we like to do together. We have been enlisted to the school of reality and relearning things or honing old skills by my gracious father in law.

Through no fault of his own he has become more dependent on us. He also has become our teacher once more and at times I resent it because he was taking time away from what we were doing and had cut back on our freedom. We were like prisoners in our own house again. We couldn’t do what we wanted when we wanted to do it.

In the infinite wisdom of his weakness this professor has taught us once again humility, compassion, patience and love in the way we treat each other and the friends that have wandered into our lives for the short term and for those friends who have decided to stay a bit longer with us.

He has taught us compassion through his hardships in getting dressed, moving around, doing simple things that we all take for granted because in the beginning we watched him try to do things by himself not wanting to infringe on his independence and wondering why he doesn’t ask for help till we figured it out that he shouldn’t have to ask for help we just pitch in now and if he doesn’t want help he politely yells at us to go away (lol)

Now I employ the same thing with Bobbie when I see her struggling with some task. I help her by nudging her away and do it for her. She no longer has to look at me for help. I now offer it unconditionally. She even smiles at me now for stepping up and pitching in and yes she does the same in turn for me when she sees that she can do it easier than me.

Once again I have learned that we lacked patience in waiting, doing things in his time not mine and as the months have progressed I have grown to have more patience in waiting for the proper time to do his things and now I have learned to apply this to Bobbie also. Not getting mad because she wasn’t ready when I was.

 My father in law has once again amazed me by showing us how to be more respectful, kind and loving towards each other and for that I am eternally grateful to have him here with us. 

Bob