tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post8475362447812514133..comments2023-10-26T05:38:25.954-04:00Comments on Thoughts On TTTWD: Starting DD Take 4bob http://www.blogger.com/profile/15987057772360831093noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-41189982623213382082013-04-27T06:09:52.621-04:002013-04-27T06:09:52.621-04:00Hi summer
When all else fails talk find out what ...Hi summer<br /><br />When all else fails talk find out what is going ohopefullyly you were talking before it all falls apart.<br /><br />Thank you for such high praises about this blog<br /><br />Bobbob https://www.blogger.com/profile/15987057772360831093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-68356482006230389592013-04-26T23:44:08.865-04:002013-04-26T23:44:08.865-04:00I really like that conversation is such a huge par...I really like that conversation is such a huge part of your lives. You can never go wrong making the right decisions and the decision to keep talking and even putting Dd activities on hold until you both came to an agreement was a wise decision in my opinion. This blog is a very good blue print for others. Thank you. Summerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15884110743227716664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-66795108584078988332013-03-07T20:40:27.046-05:002013-03-07T20:40:27.046-05:00Good point Es un May BobGood point Es un May <br><br>Bobbobhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15987057772360831093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-74692696110438035662013-03-07T14:07:06.058-05:002013-03-07T14:07:06.058-05:00It is good that you were able to sit down for so m...It is good that you were able to sit down for so many times, and really work out what was going on. I think the more you do, the more willing she will be. :) Sometimes getting to be submissive is knowing the path to get there, yes there are times when we need to blindly trust, but it helps if you men can limit those times for us. :)Es Mayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-13660638630543004592013-03-07T08:56:59.179-05:002013-03-07T08:56:59.179-05:00So true FDBobSo true FD<br><br>Bobbobhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15987057772360831093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-70413587560992341732013-03-07T08:49:42.539-05:002013-03-07T08:49:42.539-05:00Communicating is always a good idea. So is listeni...Communicating is always a good idea. So is listening. You seem to be on the right path.<br><br>FDFlorida Domhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08785387941624829985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-83335100163387890532013-03-07T05:47:07.977-05:002013-03-07T05:47:07.977-05:00Glad you stoped by RozThank you for your kind word...Glad you stoped by Roz<br>Thank you for your kind words.<br>This jurney should prove to be very interesting :)<br><br>Bobbobhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15987057772360831093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-9728063261820131872013-03-07T05:30:09.386-05:002013-03-07T05:30:09.386-05:00Hi Bob, just found you and wanted to say Hi ... He...Hi Bob, just found you and wanted to say Hi ... Hello :)<br><br>This was a great post, thank you for sharing. You did well, stepping back and communicating to figure out what the problem was. Good on your both! <br><br>Hugs,<br>RozRozhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-50158365501937310362013-03-07T04:32:51.957-05:002013-03-07T04:32:51.957-05:00Thank you Christina. For your kind words. BobThank you Christina. <br>For your kind words. <br><br>Bobbobhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15987057772360831093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-51449530072470421952013-03-07T04:28:22.910-05:002013-03-07T04:28:22.910-05:00That is so true Minelle. Without understanding it ...That is so true Minelle. <br>Without understanding it would be a hard road to travel. <br><br>Bobbobhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15987057772360831093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-66632604631718338682013-03-06T23:58:45.436-05:002013-03-06T23:58:45.436-05:00Hindsight is always 20/20 - you think you were on ...Hindsight is always 20/20 - you think you were on the same page and it turns out you weren't. So you communicated and figured it out. You realized that you didn't hear what her concerns were, so you listened. Trust me, DD can be a bumpy path but the destination is so worth it. You did a good job!Christinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04713462104350765878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-91992438882735769902013-03-06T23:33:20.386-05:002013-03-06T23:33:20.386-05:00Sometimes it is one step forward....one step back....Sometimes it is one step forward....one step back. The communicating is necessary. However the 'understanding' is what helps...<br>I love reading your's and Bobbie's story.Minelle Labraunhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16206283897752166320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-70934071269447540922013-03-06T18:32:24.044-05:002013-03-06T18:32:24.044-05:00Thank you EmiWe can definitely see a definite defe...Thank you Emi<br><br>We can definitely see a definite deference in the way we talk to each other and through this I am able to "read" Bobbie's mood better to stop some bad situations. <br><br>Bobbobhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15987057772360831093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-14968774643296481202013-03-06T18:24:48.728-05:002013-03-06T18:24:48.728-05:00When we decided to test drive DD I thought it was ...When we decided to test drive DD I thought it was going to be easy, talk about what we wanted to try and then do it and be happy. <br>If I only knew I would have talked more ;) <br><br><br>Bobbobhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15987057772360831093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-27499453154055789732013-03-06T17:14:09.253-05:002013-03-06T17:14:09.253-05:00Hi Bob, was just lurking by - I think it's gre...Hi Bob, was just lurking by - I think it's great you made the connection about listening and your behavior "like a kid in the candy shop" taking what you want. The communication you end up with through ttwd is amazing, I've seen my own relationship take a whole new turn. My Husband is sort of a closet spanko.. He likes to, wants to... but does not really like admitting it.. We've done a lot of opening up to one another over the past year or so with this whole "thing we do"<br><br>Welcome to blogging!<br><br>-EmiEmi Joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11824856711449107307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-23806824134821685562013-03-06T14:43:48.959-05:002013-03-06T14:43:48.959-05:00The hard part for me was the listning, I wanted to...The hard part for me was the listning, I wanted to be there at a certin time and i failed to LISTEN to Bobbie.<br>After so many let downs I just might have that listening thing down. Now what was it you were talking about LOL<br><br>Bobbobhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15987057772360831093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-22572106261393238262013-03-06T14:05:24.996-05:002013-03-06T14:05:24.996-05:00Bob, have you noticed something similar across all...Bob, have you noticed something similar across all these comments? It leaps off the page. Communicate, communicate and communicate. Listen, listen, listen. And take things slow! <br><br>Starman and I were just like you and Bobbie at the start. Except that I brought the idea to him, and he still after three and a half months, has to do it 'his way'. So we don't go by the book any more. And because of that, it seems to slowly (very slowly) be moulding itself around us, and not us around it!<br><br>Strong foundations my friend are what is the most important thing in all of this, and I think you and Bobbie are building them.<br><br>Many hugs,<br><br>AmiAmi Starsonghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01745610022591654541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-41035296246446903072013-03-06T11:49:44.286-05:002013-03-06T11:49:44.286-05:00Very interesting. DD or ttwd takes so much talking...Very interesting. DD or ttwd takes so much talking, I don't think anyone who hasn't done it, would or could ever understand the amount of communication this takes. :)Juliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08484811892132134437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-48306103204646946852013-03-06T11:25:36.076-05:002013-03-06T11:25:36.076-05:00Thanks TerpsichoreI thought TTWD would get easy af...Thanks Terpsichore<br>I thought TTWD would get easy after awhile but it turned out to be the oppsite to be true. Any thing that is worth keeping time and effort to keep<br><br>Bobbobhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15987057772360831093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-23517013229635252642013-03-06T11:21:13.574-05:002013-03-06T11:21:13.574-05:00Amen sister.As for the book it's out of print ...Amen sister.<br>As for the book it's out of print LOL<br><br>Bobbobhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15987057772360831093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-34888771946820342012013-03-06T11:20:05.272-05:002013-03-06T11:20:05.272-05:00Oh yeah they are getting better.But there are time...Oh yeah they are getting better.<br>But there are times when I just throw up my hands and walk away but we always seem to figure out what i buging us an then fix it.<br><br>Bobbobhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15987057772360831093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-62153389526888153582013-03-06T11:17:59.515-05:002013-03-06T11:17:59.515-05:00I have found communicating is the easy part, the h...I have found communicating is the easy part, the hard part that listening is the hard part for me.<br>There are times when Bobbie is talking to me and my mind drifs away to another place and that is when I get into trouble :(<br>But I am getting better at listening to her<br><br>Bobbobhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15987057772360831093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-23210663842247973312013-03-06T11:13:29.875-05:002013-03-06T11:13:29.875-05:00thank you Cat.thank you Cat.<br>bobhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15987057772360831093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-49780613648922610852013-03-06T11:12:36.919-05:002013-03-06T11:12:36.919-05:00A great example of the importance of communicating...A great example of the importance of communicating and listening to one another's needs...and sounds like you are doing just that... :-) Take care, TerpsTerpsichorehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13704408254742966076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-21713101687022739502013-03-06T11:08:22.714-05:002013-03-06T11:08:22.714-05:00I think my husband and I have spent more time talk...I think my husband and I have spent more time talking since starting DD than we ever did before. Just that one change by itself is huge. I feel that as long as we can talk about it, we're moving forward. Sometimes only inch by inch, but that adds up right? <br><br>"How to be Domly", huh? That's one I haven't seen on Amazon, lol! :)Queeniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09959416762628645531noreply@blogger.com