tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post771675816814763997..comments2023-10-26T05:38:25.954-04:00Comments on Thoughts On TTTWD: What Do You Do?bob http://www.blogger.com/profile/15987057772360831093noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-33669317055966615412013-11-04T09:16:24.294-05:002013-11-04T09:16:24.294-05:00Hello butterfly
What a wise person that was and t...Hello butterfly<br /><br />What a wise person that was and thank you for reminding me that I should follow my own advice lol<br /><br />Bobbob https://www.blogger.com/profile/15987057772360831093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-54537915657665766812013-11-03T21:13:31.695-05:002013-11-03T21:13:31.695-05:00I can remember me calling someone saying the same ...I can remember me calling someone saying the same thing and someone let me talk it out and gave me ideas on what to do then let us do the work. In this life just like in any lifestyle there are things that happen. We have to move on and find a way to bring closer to the past. Talking is key. Listen and give ideas bob you know what u are doing. Having someone to talk to normal helps talk out the trouble. SO JUST BE U and you got the rest.butterflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07730510468930370241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-68040083886855887332013-10-19T11:07:25.027-04:002013-10-19T11:07:25.027-04:00Everyone goes through struggles. We had a time whe...Everyone goes through struggles. We had a time when we thought we were "done" and I have to say, as much as this lifestyle works for us and we're both dedicated to TTWD, things happen. I've been spanked in anger. Jason has withdrawn. I've pushed and hurt him. Things happen, and it sucks, but when people love each other, they move on. Sometimes people need a bit of advice. I'd advise this couple to use a safe word as a pause, and to honor that, or maybe take a break from TTWD. Sometimes people need distance. <br /><br />But mostly we need to be understanding that no dynamic is perfect, and that we all go through things like this. I think mostly I'd say "I'm sorry you're going through this right now, let me know if you need to talk." <br /><br />It can be reeling to be on the other end -- that stable couple you think has it all together doesn't. It can make you rethink your own dynamic. But I think mostly it's a reminder that no one is perfect...<br /><br />JGirlJGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15399815123836143722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-46135795035143262292013-10-18T06:32:48.401-04:002013-10-18T06:32:48.401-04:00I would have to agree, readdressing consent and l...I would have to agree, readdressing consent and lots of communication. she pushed for the spanking and he went too far with the spanking then maybe they should go slow and keep everything but the spanking for a while. And once the trust and communication comes back, then they can talk about slowly adding that back. DD is so much more then spanking, it's respect and how we treat each other and most importantly, communication.<br />Kim<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09349584751055182836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-18602798005089246042013-10-18T06:11:20.371-04:002013-10-18T06:11:20.371-04:00Oh gosh Bob, this is so difficult because you only...Oh gosh Bob, this is so difficult because you only know what they are telling you and perhaps not the full picture or the underlying issues. In my humble opinion, I think the best thing would be to encourage them to communicate. I know we are always saying how important communication is, but it is vital, even more so in this situation.<br /><br />I also agree with Mr BBabout readdressing consent. Perhaps they need to take a step back for a while and focus on trying to reconnect as a couple.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />Roz Rozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023923249541954368.post-69028627981579165912013-10-18T02:28:26.775-04:002013-10-18T02:28:26.775-04:00Personally, I think I'd need a little more inf...Personally, I think I'd need a little more info to be able to attempt an answer to some of the questions posed.<br />How long has the couple mentioned been living a DD dynamic in their relationship? How to proceed helping them depends a lot on how long and where they have been gathering their information and researching. Do they have a set process and plan built in?<br /><br />As we all know, there's the harsh truth that just because DD works for so many of us , it doesn't mean it work for everyone. <br />If they're new. There's the possibility that sometimes after someone Comes Out about DD, they kind of relax a little. For a successful and continuing DD relationship, right after Coming Out, the real work begins. DD isn't a magic pill that makes everything wonderful in a relationship, it takes hard work and commitment.<br />It's hard to answer all the questions above without more insight, but sometimes people think DD is about spanking. If the frequency of spankings slow down, become too hard, not hard enough etc... one or both partners think there's something wrong with the DD aspect of their relationship. In reality, DD is about the relationship as a whole and individual needs within each person in the relationship. <br />You mention "pushing" That sometimes means manipulating to get something without being up front and honest to begin with. You also mentioned that the HoH felt the TiH was "whining" about DD. IMO, when a couple is using negative verbalizations about each other, there's some underlying resentments there. I suggest relaxing the spanking focus and re-setting the DD part of their dynamic from first readdressing their Consent. Without both partners verbally acknowledging 100% to each other that they both want a DD relationship, there's no reason to proceed. If both partners are 100% committed to continue forward, then comes a plan of building a communication process. Patiently. <br />(sorry for writing a mini post lol)<br />Your friend,<br /># MrBBSpankerMrBBSpankerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13157302499211539690noreply@blogger.com